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“Marriages are made in Heaven”, this is what I have been
told from my childhood. But when I met my husband I totally believed it. We are
so opposite but still so perfect for each other.
Ours was an arranged marriage. We had a courtship period of
4 months and still I am not sure whether it was love after marriage or before marriage.
But whatever it was, we were so happy with other. After a wonderful one year we
decided to start a family. So here we were, a year after we had a lovely baby
boy in our life.
Life was sailing smooth. He was busy in his work and I was
busy taking care of our son. Sometimes we were so busy that we hardly get any
time to spend time with each other. We knew that this is part of life and we
will come out of this phase and get some time for each other.
And then the day came when we came to know he has to go to
London for 3 months on work assignment. As our son was very small we didn’t
want to take the risk of traveling with him. So we decided that I will stay
back and he will have to travel alone to London. Though I showed the confidence
to my husband that I will manage alone here, from inside I was very depressed
that I will have to stay three months without him. It was first time in the
last 2 years that he was traveling alone and that too for such a long time.
Finally he reached London and I called my mom to stay with
me. Initially he had a good time there meeting new people and visiting new
places. We use to have video chat every day. My son had also adjusted very well
with my mom so I could manage some time for myself.
But the decision of going to London started showing its
impact. A month later while talking to my husband I realized that something was
wrong with him. He was not his usual self as he used to be earlier. Later I
realized that here back at home I am with my Mom and my son but there he is
alone managing everything himself from his food to laundry and office. I knew
that he is very sensitive and emotional, but didn’t realized that staying away
from family will impact him so much that he will generate some kind of
depression.
This entire arrangement of staying away from each other
impacted our lives too much. One side my husband started staying depressed, on
the other hand as I was worried, I could not give proper attention to my kid,
as a result his health also impacted.
I was very worried and wanted to be a support to both my kid
and husband. And then I took a hard decision. I discussed with mom the
situation and asked her if she can take care of my son for a week so that I can
visit my husband to London. As my son was 1 year old there was no harm if he
stays away from me for a week.
And then the day arrived, I traveled to London all the way
alone just to meet him once and support him so that he comes out of the
depression and can spend rest of his in good health. I was traveling alone for the first time and
that too so far. But the excitement to meet my husband gave me courage to
travel. It was a complete surprise for him. I can still remember the smile and
happiness on his face. We spent some beautiful time in London and re discovered
the love for each other. Though we missed our son very much but were assured
that he is in safe hands of my mom.
I stayed there for a week and that one week gave my husband
strength and assurance for the rest of his stay. He knew that back at home his
wife and son waiting for him and cares for him. He completed his stay of 3 months
and came back in good health. And back at home as I was in a good state of mind
all the while, I could take proper care of my kid.
Thus sometimes we do not realize what would be the impact of
certain decisions taken in life. As seen above, one bad impact of taking a decision
to travel alone and staying away from the family. In the same story one good impact
of taking a decision of leaving my kid with my mom and traveling alone.
